I decided this probably isn't a healthy way to be living so I did a little research on some helpful tools to help manage the "WORRY BEAST"
These are the 10 things I came up with. . . . .
1.) IDENTIFY WHAT YOU ARE WORRYING ABOUT.
Ask yourself if it's really a problem or is it something you are creating in your head. Write down what is bothering you or talk it over with a trusted friend who knows you well. If it's really a problem then try to come up with a game plan. If it isn't throw it in the pile of "this does not serve me right now"
2.) IS IT PRESENT?
Are you worried that you you're going to be late for work because you left 10 minutes late and traffic is a bear, or are you worrying about a conversation that hasn't even happened yet, rehearsing every possible outcome in your head over and over. Is it a problem that you can fix in the moment? If not throw it in the "this is not a good use of my time right now" pile.
The truth is if it hasn't happened yet there is no point in worrying or stressing over it. You will give yourself unwanted grey hair. An idle mind can be a dangerous place,if you don't have something more important to be doing busy your mind with a funny YouTube clip laugh a little it helps.
3.) FACE YOUR FEAR HEAD ON!
Worrying about what scares you can be very draining and I know we all could use the energy wasted on it for something more positive. Whatever it is you fear, public speaking, failing, possibly being embarrassed about an idea or project you have, just go do it! It only seems scary because in your head you made it scary.
4.) ASK YOURSELF "WHAT'S THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN?"
This is one of my favorites and I use it often usually coupled with, "will this matter to me on my death bed?" and "is is going to kill me?"
The answer is almost always NO. BOOM non existent problem solved :)
5.) HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOUR WORRIES ACTUALLY BECOME PROBLEMS?
If you are anything like me, (I tend to worry more than I should) worrying about the future, work, family, friends, usually all things that generally speaking I have no control over and that are not even close to ever happening, and they usually never ever do.
Worry contains fear of losing control or having a situation you can do nothing about. Once you have accepted this statement and know there is always something you can do about it you are coming from a place of potential control and you are already stronger.
7.) TRUST YOURSELF TO HANDLE ANY SITUATION IN LIFE!
You know you better than anyone, trust your instincts they were put there for a reason.
8.) HAVE A SOLID SOUNDING BOARD A.K.A. A BEST FRIEND
Someone who knows you well and that is not afraid to tell you when you are being a worrywart. Sometimes hearing yourself saying what is on your mind out loud helps you realize that it really isn't a problem at all.
9.) CHECK YOUR ENVIRONMENT
Is there someone in your life right now that is toxic or bringing up unnecessary worrying? This one can be tricky because sometimes you don't even realize that you may be keeping company of toxic people. Do you have a friend that always seems to have some type of drama in their life? A coworker that is constantly being negative, complaining about everything from the coffee in the office to speaking poorly about another colleague? These are some toxic people that you may want to limit interactions with.
10.) COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS!!
This one I use regularly, right before I'm about to fall asleep and everything I did such a great job at not worrying about throughout the day suddenly pops into my head trying to rob me of my beauty sleep. I nicely tell the "WORRY BEAST" to shut up and I start listing all the things I am thankful for until I fall asleep. Works like a charm every time! You can also make a list and keep it with you at all times so when the 'WORRY BEAST" starts to appear you can take the list out and read it and put your mind in a better place.
Now I'm not saying that you will read this article and all of your worries will suddenly disappear, these are all things that take time, effort, being present, and conscious of your thoughts. It's kind of like losing weight, you don't just read an article or go for a run and suddenly lose 5 lbs, you have to put work into training it like you would any muscle in your body.